The Importance of Not Settlingadmin
When the news hit that George Clooney got married, you would have thought that the world was ending. I remember getting a panicked call from a girlfriend of mine asking, “Did you hear the horrible news!!!???” I legitimately thought something had happened to her or her family. “George Clooney got married. And she’s not even all that cute.” Not cute? Yeah ok. #ByeFelicia I’m being a little hard on my friend, who’s name isn’t Felicia lol. It was sort of a big deal. For much of his career, George has proudly worn “The World’s Sexiest Bachelor” title for as long as I could remember. He’s been in several relationships. And all of the women he courted were drop dead gorgeous and appeared to have their shit together. So why now? Why the decision to get married at the age of 53? Why not just stay single? Enter Amal Alamuddin. Amal is a 36 year old London-based British-Lebanese lawyer, activist, and author. She is a barrister at Doughty Street Chambers, specialising in international law, criminal law, human rights, and extradition. Her clients include Julian Assange, the founder of WikiLeaks, and the former prime minister of Ukraine, Yulia Tymoshenko. She speaks English, French and Arabic. Her shoe game is sick. Heads of state call her when they need advanced counsel on global issues. She is, well, fabulous. People were surprised when George starting dating Amal but I wasn’t. George took his time in deciding who would be the “right” fit for his life. He had reached a point when he knew exactly what he wanted and that he didn’t have to settle. When he met Amal he didn’t waste any time putting a ring on it. He proposed in April of this year and by September the two had tied the knot in a fabulous ceremony in his beloved Italy. When you are genuinely wanted, you will know it time and time again. So what’s your point you might be asking right about now. The point is a clear one. And it’s about the importance of setting and maintaining standards when it comes to you, your career and/or your business. I’ve met so many incredible women over the years with my work in marketing and now with My Forward Life and I’ve come to realize that as strong and as kickass as we claim to be, at the end of the day, we all still want to be liked in some manner. We want approval and it does feel good sometimes to be told we’re ok. I’ve accepted that truth for myself. I love a good compliment! It has the ability to change the entire landscape of my day, even my week. But at the same time, there are certain things I just won’t allow anymore when it comes to my life, my career and my business. It’s one of the beautiful things about being experienced, about getting older. If I had known back then at 21 what I know now, I would be a millionaire I tell you lol. Here are my top career deal breakers:
DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY NO
I injured my back several years ago due to a few bad car accidents and ever since then, I have just dealt with the nagging pain from it. I’ve learned to just keep working even when it felt bad. This horrible habit carried over to my personal and professional pursuits as well. There were times when I knew I needed to say no to certain requests, projects or people but I didn’t. And I paid for it dearly. You don’t ever have to do anything you don’t want to do. And if you are in a situation currently where you often find yourself saying “Yes” to things you’d rather say no to, it’s time to evaluate if you are where you should be right now. The world will NOT end if you say no. I promise that. The people that know your value will understand your stance and actually have more respect for you for not saying yes to everything. You are in control of the ship called your life. You steer. And if you don’t like the direction you’re heading in, the time is now to change the course your trip.
I WILL NOT TAKE THE FIRST THING OFFERED TO ME
Think before reacting. I think this could probably apply to every aspect of our lives, but in business especially, this rings so true. Negotiation can be tough. If I reject what you offer to me I definitely don’t want you to think I’m ungrateful, a bitch or high maintenance. When I negotiate, what it means is that I understand my value and want you to honor it as well. Whether it’s a job offer, promotion, or a chance to partner with someone, think first, then react. You don’t have to take the first thing someone offers you either. If something doesn’t feel right, trust that instinct, do not ignore it. Now, after you’ve thought about it, if you still believe their offer to be a fair one, then by all means, go for it. I’m just saying to give yourself the time to think about it.
I DESERVE THE BEST IN EVERYTHING
George Clooney was 53 when he decided that Amal was “the one”. He has probably received countless offers from amazing women from around the world but he waited. Amal is beautiful, funny, traveled, highly intelligent and most importantly, his perfect fit. Is it possible to find that perfect fit when it comes to your career or your business? I guess it’s how you define the word perfect. For me, it doesn’t mean that things never go wrong. Perfect also doesn’t suggest that there won’t be days when you want to tell everyone to go you know what to themselves. When something or someone is a perfect fit, it’s more than just a connection or a happy feeling as that’s fleeting. The perfect fit for your life moves you closer to your purpose. It inspires you to go further, to dream a little bigger. It makes you believe that all things are possible. You are special and you deserve to experience all of these feelings and more when it comes to your life and how you choose to live it. Life is too short not to be ridiculously fulfilled and happy with your career. You deserve the best my dear. And nothing less.
Don’t ever settle. xoxo Jas